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Thursday, October 3, 2013

Frustration

When I first started listening to, and reading about, red pill ideas and realizing there was some truth to it, my first reaction was frustration. In fact, every time I see another red pill example out in the real world, I admit I feel that old twinge of frustration.

But then I think about it. And I realize that frustration is pointless. It does not yield better decisions for me, it does not make me happier, and does not change the facts of nature.

The red pill is about seeing the world as it is, not how you want it to be. That frustration was borne out of cognitive dissonance: my experiences were not matching up to my expectations of reality. That is from where much anger, frustration, confusion, and depression, ultimately stem.

What is the point of frustration though? Once you see the cause of the frustration, you can choose to see the world as it is (which includes not only your experiences but others' as well). Then, you can simply use these "frustrating examples" as simply additional information for every decision you make.

The cute girl sleeps with the dumb jock? Well, instead of getting frustrated, you can figure out why that occurred. It is his fitness, his demeanor, his social status, his competition from girls, or his looks that the girl desires? Figure it out, and use it to your advantage. You don't have to emulate him exactly, but you can understand and emulate aspects of him which girls find attractive.

Somebody new joins the social group and all the girls are extremely interested in him? Instead of getting frustrated that he has "AMOGed" you (which is immature thinking on your part), learn and figure out what it is about him that's so interesting to these girls, or what took control o the social situation. Once you let go of your frustration, you'll realize that you might learn a thing or two from him.

I feel this is all too common - many new red pillers initially find the red pill because of bitterness or frustration towards the world not meeting their expectations. And you can tell in the way they talk that they are full of anger and pain, and sometimes in the extreme cases actual misogyny (read: not the b.s. misogyny feminist attribute to all red pill people and ideas) stemming from their pain.

Then you talk to the more experienced red pillers, and they no longer have an ounce of frustration. Their cognitive dissonance is gone and they see the world as it is, and are usually much happier for it. These experienced red pillers have no ill will towards women and their actions. You'll hear the more experienced ones talk about not hating girls for acting as they do, simply accepting it and using that information to further your own goals. You'll hear them say that it's simply part of women's biology and instincts to act as they do. There's no reason to get frustrated or hate them for it. In fact, you can love and respect them, as long as you recognize their fundamental motivations.

Once you realize this, you only have yourself to blame if you are not using all the information to your advantage, and only yourself to blame if you are frustrated. You are the only one responsible for your own emotions.

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