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Monday, April 27, 2015

Apathy?

I used to suffer from a lot of apathy, laziness, general lethargy, for working hard towards delayed gratification.

I have two ways of dealing with bouts of apathy when they arise. The first I wrote about in January, when I ask myself "how would I fail?" at something.
The second is a simple affirmation:

"If I am waiting to truly prefer to start something over all other activities, I'll be waiting forever."

Now sometimes I really do want to go to the gym. Maybe I ate a lot and feel a surge of energy or bloatedness; maybe I'm mad, or stressed, and need to release some energy.

But the daily grind required for a strong physique just isn't always appealing.
Now once I start exercising, I'm good to go. But my momentum of not exercising sometimes overpowers me and makes the change in direction of my day to start exercising difficult.

It's at these moments, that I remind myself that if I'm waiting until I want to start exercising over all other activities (including sitting on my ass on the couch), I may be waiting a long time.

Rather, my goal of the body I want, and the neurochemicals released after exercise, are more of a positive than the lethargy is a negative.
Don't want to take the plunge of working on a side-business? Maybe a touch of fear of failure, or just a general apathy at the hard work that's required? If you wait until you truly are going to prefer starting a project rather than sit around and enjoy a beer with friends, you may be waiting a long time. Your financial goals should be more powerful than your lethargy. Remind yourself that you are going to be waiting a long time to start something if you need to 100% prefer starting such a project over any other activity.

Tangentially, I used to have some minor approach anxiety at bars/clubs/that-starbucks-in-barnes-and-noble (you know, all the best spots for picking up quality girls). But if I stopped masturbating for a week, my lust would overpower my minor anxiety. If my brain knows that the only way it's going to release this built-up lustful pressure is to sleep with a girl, when I take the immediate release away from myself, that is going to be more powerful than any minor spell of approach anxiety.

Become self-aware as to what's truly the root of your apathy in different situations (start daily mindful meditation if you aren't self-aware enough yet, as long as you can overcome your apathy to start that!), and use psychological tricks on yourself to defeat it.

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Saturday, April 4, 2015

Abstraction

I objectify women. I also objectify men. I objectify many things in my life.

But what is objectifying?

It's simply a form of abstract thinking. Abstraction is an important tool in our understanding of the world. We are naturally symbolic creatures, creating symbols to represent situations, memories, people, future outcomes, etc.

Here are some examples of abstract thinking:
  •   Breaking situations down to economics.
  •   Determining the value someone brings to your life.
  •   Having hookups, each serving a sexual purpose for you.
  •  Creating the abstract concept (with legal recognition) of marriage in order to properly raise offspring.
  •   Determining the optimal way to pass on your genes.
  •   Understanding social interactions and power dynamics.  

This type of thinking is freeing. It allows you to break down things to their simple value. It allows you to see your house as shelter, food as sustenance, girls as potential mothers and/or sexual fulfillment.

We discuss the economics of sex. We ask ourselves what value we bring to women. We determine which food to put into our body and which habits of contracting our muscles yield the optimal method to achieve our goals.

Heed this warning, however. Too much abstract thinking could be used as a defense mechanism, in order to hide from dealing with the fear of concrete interactions. Concrete interactions consist of the day-to-day interactions with the women in your life. The sensations of sex being pleasurable. Shooting the shit with your bros or your girl.

If you are using abstraction to avoid the pain of your girl possibly rejecting you, of the possibility of someone with whom you are enjoying a good time hurting you, then you are not in control of your own life and you are weak. If that is the case, then your time attempting understanding these interactions is simply a defense mechanism because you are scared of the concrete feeling of rejection which may accompany the concrete feeling of enjoying an interaction.

You can abstract people into the role you play, the value you bring, the value she brings, and the economics of the situation. But abundance means that you can enjoy the concrete interactions, and recognize that if shit goes south, you'll drop a bitch and move on for someone else to enjoy. Both able to enjoy what they bring to your life, and to also enjoy the concrete interactions.

It is freeing to be able to abstract interactions away, but it's even more freeing to both abstract interactions away, and not be afraid of the concrete dynamics. Don't limit your experience to only abstract thinking (usually new readers) or only concrete interactions (usually detractors who despise our "objectification").

Don't be weak. Embrace both, and enjoy the true freedom of abundance.

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Friday, January 23, 2015

Mental Trick: How Would You Fail?

This is a mental trick I used to use frequently when I was first breaking out of the blue-pill mentality and figured it might help out some brethren.

The trick is simple: you simply ask yourself how you'd get what you don't desire.

For example, with fitness. Perhaps you've been struggling with diet fads over the years, have made minimal gains, but are frustrated. Maybe you justify eating that one extra slice of pizza, and feel guilty about it afterwards, or rationalize it as "living a little".

Simply pretend that you wished to get fat. Or get skinny and weak. Or get bulky but unattractive. Or whatever you don't want to do. What would you eat? How would you act?

This will start your brain to really tune in to your instincts. You'll realize that you know deep down what sort of behavior will lead to the goal you don't want. That's easy. You'll realize what sort of lethargy, food, exercise level, etc. will get you away from your goal and towards other non-desired goals. Then it will help you realize which "direction" each action will lead you: towards or away from your goals.

This sounds simple and obvious, but it's powerful. Sometimes we have a hard time honing into what we should do, since we are attached to the outcome. By imagining what you'd do to get away from your goal, it's easier to realize what actions will lead you towards your goal.

Some examples:
  • What sort of behavior would lead to women cringing at your actions?
  • If you wanted to get rejected by women at a bar, how would you act? How much of an ass, how much of a pussy, etc., would get you rejected by women if you wanted?
  • If you wanted people to be unattracted to you, how would you dress?
  • If you wanted a business to fail, how would you spend your days? How lazy would you have to be?
  • If you want to fail a class, what would you do? How much class would you skip? How much would you study?
  • If you wanted to get divorce raped, what sort of woman should you look for to marry? What traits would she have?
  • If you wanted to be a middle age depressed man, what sort of life decisions would lead you to that?
  • Ad-nauseum.

Don't dismiss this as "obvious" and just say "Hey, DeepThrill, why don't you just ask yourself what you do want, you idiot!?".

Your subconscious is tricky and will rationalize, hamster, etc., because it's attached to the outcome of the goal. The minute you actually want something to succeed, and in some deep down sense believe that you need it to succeed to be happy, you will not be able to think clearly about it.

But when you ridiculously ask yourself how you'd get fat and have your business or coursework fail, you might realize that you're doing that with your daily actions more than you realize, and rationalize it as "relaxing cuz it's necessary."

You know how to achieve your goals, deep down, instinctually, and this will help you tune into those instincts.

This helped me a bunch when I was just starting to gain some confidence and achieve my goals, and maybe it'll help somebody else.

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Thursday, January 22, 2015

Might is Right

Background

This post is going to be a summary of some viewpoints presented in the book Might is Right: Survival of the Fittest written by pseudonymous Ragnar Redbeard. It contains some red pill themes throughout, and is notoriously controversial and written in a harsh tone that would make most modern "men" blush.

It's important that you keep in mind that this book was written in 1890. It contains many hard truths, and yet also many foolish fallacies, equating man as simply another animal in a Darwinian struggle. The wikipedia entry has good introduction.

I am not necessarily personally advocating all of these views, but rather presenting the author's premise.

Premise

The book essentially makes the claim that force and power is the ultimate goal. It advocates Darwin's survival of the fittest, and discusses how humans are breeding themselves into oblivion.

  • Love in sexual relationship, Power in social adjustments, Polarity and Magnetism in physics, Gravitation in astronomy, and Might in ethics, are exact synonyms - 'the Persistence of Force'.
  • Heriditary virtues can only be maintained, by keeping them in constant use.
  • Each molecule, each animal, fights for its life. You must fight for yours, or surrender.
  • Man is part and parcel of the animal kingdom and he cannot escape from draconic ordinances
  • During the whole course of human history, there is not upon record, one authentic instance wherein a subjugated people has every regained property-holding Liberty, without first butchering its tyrants, thereafter confiscating to its own use the lands and realized property that previously had been in the possession of its defeated foes and masters.
  • Inequality is summed up in the scientific axiom "inferior organisms succumb, that superior organisms may survive, propagate, and possess."
  • To solemnly proclaim that "all men are created equal" is as stupid and unscientific as to assert that all dogs, cattle, apes, and trees are created equal.

Controversial

Racism and a nod to genocide, as well as misogyny, are rampant throughout this book. Given the underlying premise of maximizing human breeding, it would naturally flow its logic towards things such as control and eugenics.

  • Are all men really brethren? [in discussing racism]
  • What proof is there that the brotherhood-of-man hypothesis is in accordance with nature? [in discussing genocide]
  • Woe unto him... if ever these lovable creates [women] should break loose from mastership, and become the rules or equals of Man (But that is impossible)
  • A woman is two-thirds womb. The other third is a network of nerves and sentimentality.
  • Women's noblest occupation is... to breed men.
These are the "milder" of the more controversial pieces, and I'd rather not write the harsher ones them here. Buy the book for yourself if you want more of this.


On Modern Society

(Keep in mind this book was written in 1890)
  • Personal cowardice is the great vice of our demoralized age. Cowardice is corroding the brain and blood of our race, but men have learnt to disguise this terrible infirmity, behind the canting whine of "humanity" and "goodness".
  • "Liberty, Equality, Fraternity" those three great lights of Modern Democracies are three colossal Falsehoods.
  • Personal liberty is very nearly unknown and any citizen who dares to think in direct opposition to the dogma of the Majority does so at the risk of his life, if he thinks too loudly.
  • Most Acts of Congress are the Machiavellian work of eminent rogues
  • Slay one man (in order to rob him) and you are a murderer. Slay a million men (in order to rob them) and you are a renowned general
  • My curse be upon the white-livered and the meek; the shameful dwindlings - who call themselves the "virtuous" the "law-abiding" the "righteous" the "godly" the "obedient ones"
  • Society is altogether a matter of convenience
  • When society becomes irksome to the strong they may dissolve it.
  • Society must exist... for companionship is natural... [but when] it develops into a synonym for social restraint, then it becomes a menace
  • Government and Society are two distinct entities, and care must be taken not to confound them.

On Morality

  • All ethics, politics, and philosophies are pure assumptions, built upon assumptions.
  • Freemen should never regulate their conduct by the suggestions of dicta of others, for when they do so, they are no longer free
  • Human rights and wrongs are not determined by Justice, but by Might. Disguise it as you may
  • Is the Golden Rule a rational rule? Is it not rather a menial rule - a coward rule - a best-policy rule? Why is it "right" for one man to do unto others?... Should he not combat them, does not that give them carte-blanche to injure and destroy him?
  • Is it reasonable to ask preying animals to do unto others as they would be done by? ... could they survive?
  • "Love one another" you say is the supreme law, but what power made it so?
  • Readers must distinctly understand that sexual morality is nowise condemned in these pages. In all sexual relationships "morality" is what strength decrees. [In discussing how sexual fidelity is an important moral to maintain]
  • Certainly it is not good strategy for a man to openly proclaim his loss of faith in conventional moralisms; if he desires to get-on in the world. A wiseling keeps his real sentiments on this point to himself - guards them as his own life. ["Think as you like but behave like others" from the 48 Laws of Power]
  • The man who plays "the game of life" in strict accord with certain cut and dried principles... is not likely to come out a winner. [Related to my post on Learn to Play the Game]
  • The man-animal can never be rendered absolutely "moral" because by nature he is as full of wiles as a fox
  • If all men were scrupulously honest, then honesty might be all right (although even that is questionable), but if one percent are deliberately dishonest, then it is assuredly all wrong. Under such resultant circumstances the "ninety nine" actually become victims of "the one".
  • Every age and nation must interpret Right and Wrong for itself. So must every man.
  • All arbitrary rules of Right and Wrong are insolent invasions of personal liberty

On Masculinity

  • Strong men are not deterred from pursuing their aim by anything. They go straight to the goal, and that goal is Beauty, Wealth, and Material Power
  • Every one who would be free must show his power
  • Each individual should think as he pleases ... without the least respect for what others think or do - the only limit to his actions being the materialized opposition he actually meets with
  • Cowards serve masters. Bold men make themselves Masters.
  • The real man must depend upon himself absolutely
  • A sensible man should never conform to any rule or custom simply because it has been highly commended by others, alive or dead.
  • The best fighters are the best race-producers.
  • The word "brutal" in real life means the reverse of effeminate. A man is brutal who will not turn the other cheek.

On Women's Nature

  • There is no other earthly passion so fiercely, savegely, egotistic, as sexual desire and it is the physical basis of all human "Love" - even the most ethereal and romantic.
  • American women's passion for marrying foreigners, arises more or less, from similar instincts.
  • The nerve cells of splendid feminines and resolute warriors vibrate in rhythmic unison... that neither "creed" nor "culture" has ever been able to eradicate.
  • When these poor miserable manlings [professors, liberal arts majors, essentially beta men according to the author] do happen (by some lucky chance) to get a woman, they make her life a torment
  • Without deception of some sort, a woman would have no defence whatever, against rivals, lovers, or husbands. We must not forget that women really hate each other - intensely.
  • Over intellectualism transfigures women into freaks. The more Animal Nature [femininity] a maiden posses; the more of a true woman she is - the better wife and mother she will make. Culture and refinement are horrible substitutes, for the grand old matronly virtues - beauty, naturalness, purity, maidenly hypnotism.
  • His daughters are controlled with equal vigor, are not permitted to mate with every strumous Dick, Tom, and Harry, that comes smirking along; but are "given away" to men who are born of good stock.

On Wealth

  • Next to the belted sword-swinger and the sturdy well-to-do athlete; the successful money-making "main of affairs" [businessman] is especially attractive to the average female mind. He also is a resolute professional fighter.
  • In such matters the female mind is preternaturally acute...in questions of marriage and love, she is an expert.
  • If a man possesses wealth (no matter how obtained) he can pick and choose among the most delightful darlings in the land
  • He also [businessman] climbs to success over his prostrate rivals.
  • The successful business man is able to support a family, and rear up his children in an environment of comparative freedom, and women are sharp to perceive this.
  • Other things being equal, women prefer a rich-man to a poor-man for a husband, and they are scientifically justified.
  • He who is without wealth amidst unlimited quantitites of it, is either a coward, a born slave, or a lunatic; and no self-respecting woman should marry such an imbecile.
  • Without being capable of logical reasoning, yet women intuitively comprehend that "there is oft a lack of courage in the race of [indebted] men."

On Sexual Market Place

  • Women of all ranks are still a marketable commodity. Whenever the supply exceeds the demand, they are straightway transmuted into ... concubines or "new women"... When few in number, they posses a certain proportion of selective influence.
  • When for every eligible man, there is a score of eligible women, their market value dwindles, and instead of "selecting" they become "the selected".
  • If legislative injunctions, and other bogey contrivances were wholly disregarded; then the Strongest and the Boldest would be fertilizing the pick of the best damsels per marriage.

On Hypergamy

  • Women instinctively admire soldiers, athletes, kings, nobles, and fighting-men generally, above all other kinds of suitors - and rightly so.
  • The difference between a man who rules in the Castle, and the other man who is chained in the castle-dungeon, is the difference between success and failure.
  • When average women find in Statute Law a "deliverer" and a "champion" more powerful than their husbands and brothers, they become both unfaithful and profligate - especially if "well educated".
  • The bolder and more aggressive men are, the more women of all classes admire them
  • Capitalists, kings, and presidents never take these servile hounds into consideration - nor do sensible women.
  • In sexual affairs, they [beta males] must of necessity, mate themselves with second-rate women - who cannot possibly find anything more to their tastes.

Conclusions

This book would likely never get published today. But it was used as a basis for The Satanic Bible. It has some comments on "modern society" in the 1890s which are still prevalent today. It takes an extremely harsh view of the world, dictating that "Might" and power are the ultimate goals in life, and any form of morality is simply a nuisance. It shows how men used to think about race, women, etc., from that time period, and which of those views have fallen out of favor. His prediction on the beta-ization of men seems to have come more or less true. I'm always interested in others' thoughts on these views.

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